Weddings are full of traditions, but let’s be real, some feel magical, and others? A little outdated. As couples move toward more personalized celebrations, it’s time to take a modern look at wedding traditions. Which ones should you keep, tweak, or toss?
Traditions to Keep (If They Feel Right for You!)
First Look (or First Touch)
Seeing your partner before the ceremony can calm nerves and make for a sweet, intimate moment. If you’re a fan of tradition, you can still save the full reveal for the aisle!
Cake Cutting
Even if you don’t love cake, this moment makes for adorable photos. Not into sweets? Try cutting into a donut tower, a stack of cookies, or a cheese wheel instead!
First Dance
Dancing in front of a crowd might not be for everyone, but having a special moment with your spouse, whether it’s a slow dance, a choreographed routine, or even a private dance after guests leave, can be a memory to cherish.
Traditions to Tweak for a Modern Spin
Bridal Party → Mix It Up
Who says your bridal party needs to be all women or all men? Have your closest people stand by your side, no matter their gender. You can also skip matching dresses and let everyone wear something that suits them.
Bouquet & Garter Toss → Do Something Fun Instead
Not everyone wants to fight over flowers or have a garter tossed their way. Consider a bouquet giveaway (where you hand it to a special guest, like your mom or grandma) or a fun game for guests instead.
Wedding Speeches → Keep It Short & Sweet
Instead of long-winded toasts that test your guests’ patience, ask your speakers to keep it under three minutes. You can also have an open-mic moment for quick well-wishes or skip speeches altogether.
Traditions to Toss (If They Don’t Fit You!)
Not Seeing Each Other Before the Ceremony
This one dates back to arranged marriages. If you’d rather spend the morning together or take pre-ceremony photos, go for it!
Expensive Engagement Rings
More couples are opting for meaningful alternatives like birthstones, vintage rings, or even skipping the engagement ring altogether in favor of other experiences.
Strict Guest Lists
Feel pressured to invite distant relatives or coworkers? Don’t. Your wedding should be filled with people who love and support you. Not just names on a list.
Waiting to See the Bride “Fully Ready”
Many brides are ditching the pressure of perfection and embracing a relaxed morning with their partner or bridal party before getting dressed. The reveal can still be special, just without the stress.
Make It Your Own!
There are no “must-dos” when it comes to your wedding, only what feels right for you as a couple. Whether you’re all about classic traditions, modern twists, or completely new ideas, the best wedding is one that reflects you!
